Chances are, if you’ve been in any kind of relationship with the opposite sex, you’re saying “I’ve had that conversation before!”
This video really hit the nail on the head. (I’m so sorry, I HAD to do it.)
Men solve and fix, women talk and feel. Countless relationship books explain this in an attempt to help us understand the opposite gender better.
I think though that sometimes the point is missed. And I believe that this is what the video is trying to point out.
For some reason, people treat it like it’s a pass for women to control the relationship. As long as men don’t try to fix anything, everything is okay.
However, God made man and woman different but equal for a reason. There are times that talking things out in a situation will help heal wounds that a quick fix (like buying gifts, etc. ) just can’t do. Then there are times that a problem needs to be tackled head on and the cause needs to be removed quickly. (Like a nail in the head.) We have relationship books pointing out the differences not so that we can tiptoe around them, but so that we can embrace them.
When we start doing this, it fulfills us in ways that we never expected.
First of all, men, whether or not you admit it, you want to be a hero. In some shape, form, or fashion, you want to be admired by someone, you want your work praised just a little, and you want it to make a difference in others’ lives.
And women, you may not know it, but you want the man in your life to be a hero. You want a little bit of a knight in shining armor coming home to you each day. When a man gets to solve a problem, he becomes that knight in shining armor for you and for himself. That’s not to say that you desire to be a damsel in distress. No, instead a woman wants to be seen as Proverbs describes her – as a woman of wisdom.
Wisdom calls aloud outside;
She raises her voice in the open squares.
21 She cries out in the chief concourses,
At the openings of the gates in the city
She speaks her words:
22 “How long, you simple ones, will you love simplicity?
For scorners delight in their scorning,
Men, when we listen to them talk about their feelings, they feel loved and desired. This is how they form relationships. If you look back at the beginning of your relationship with her, and think real hard, you’ll remember there was a lot of talking going on. Christina and I talked for hours on the phone when we first met. We talked so much that it ended up being cheaper monthly for me to get a land line for her to call since she had unlimited minutes and I didn’t.
This need doesn’t end when you say I do.
And remember men, listening is active, hearing is passive.
When we embrace the differences in our personalities and use them together to face life, our relationship deepens. We end up accomplishing so much more than we would if we were constantly tiptoeing around those differences.
Sometimes it IS about the nail.